Love @ First Click?

Do you believe in love at first sight? Has it ever happened to you?
If so, do you believe in love at first click? When you start online dating you often "click" with a person immediately. You seem to have a lot in common. He seems to understand you and react in a way that appeals to you. One often jumps into a closeness quickly that doesn't happen in real life that much. Not in my experience anyway. You feel safe --behind your computer. After all, it's pretty anonymous. Even the photo can be doctored up.
You then look forward to meeting this person online on a regular basis, at a certain time of day...after a long day; when you're too tired to go out or do much else. You even start to pour out your heart and open up.

Sounds great and familiar so far?
Then it comes to meeting in person. That is a big step to be undertaken with great caution. Am I being too cautious?
Next thing could be a phone call first. Still got the same feeling for that individual? You only know his voice. What does he look like? Like his picture ? I met people who had put on 30 pounds since or aged many dog years.
Good luck online--but take it easy....step by step!

In the Booth with Ruth

Ruth Jacobs

In the Booth with Ruth – Siggy Buckley In the Booth with Ruth - Writer Interviews on April 8, 2013 at 10:50 am

What’s your writing background? When did you begin writing and what inspired you?

I was a college adjunct professor for teaching English (being a German citizen) for years. When my life took an unexpected turn, I started ‘to take notes’. My then husband had opted out of the rat race for health and environmental reasons. He was a CPA, and made us emigrate from a professional German background to become organic farmers in the sticks of Ireland: for The Good Life. It was a challenge and a culture shock for me. This created a crop of misgivings and, unfortunately, our marriage broke up over it.

How often do you write? And how do you manage to fit in writing among other commitments?

My writing is sporadic due to some medical issues I have, but I’m blogging and on Facebook every day. I’d also like to recommend my writers website www.writersgettogether.blogspot.com that has become well established in just one year. If you are a blogger or writer, please do become a contributor too! That’s where readers can find me and also some other websites including www.siggybuckley.blogspot.com, www.nexttimelucky.com, which is a working blog with the latest on dating, and www.nexttimelucky.blogspot.com. I can also be found on www.americanchronicles.com and www.opednews.com with political or environmental articles. If you have an interest in all matters green, www.inandoutofIreland.blogspot.com might interest you. I’ve been a member of Greenpeace and environmental activist for over twenty years.

In which genre do you most enjoy writing?

Creative non-fiction. I lived through enough material for another book.

What draws you to write in that genre?

Somehow I lack the imagination to write thrillers or paranormal stuff. When I get hooked or hyped up over some political or environmental issues, I also write articles for www.americanchronicles.com and www.opednews.com.

Tell me about your current project(s)?

Where and how to find a new partner in a country where divorce wasn’t even legal yet? I started my own dating agency to skim off the cream – as a journalist put it in an interview. I became the “Dating Guru” or “Chief Cupid” of Ireland. Enough to write a book about! When the internet took over the dating scene even in remote Ireland, I jumped on the cyber highway myself to find that elusive soul mate. The book is called “Next Time Lucky: Lessons of a Matchmaker”. It’s a sassy read and a naughty ride! Its new and third edition has an additional chapter with practical advice on “How to find Your Mr. Right.” It’s available now on Amazon, and the paperback now is available though Lightning Source and Ingrams and can be ordered in bookstores.

What are your writing plans for the future?

I lived through enough material for another book and that is almost finished, just being edited. It’s called “I once had a farm in Ireland – An Organic Life Story.” Again, it’s a work of creative non-fiction – my favourite genre – with plenty of advice on how to pluck chickens or geese, nurse weak lambs, groom sheep (shearing and clipping their toenails). Ah, and the homebrew making wine out of elderberries or rhubarb!  

Where can people find out more about you?

Next Time Lucky is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble as well as another little ebook of mine about my home swapping experience: “Intrepid Homeswappers: Insider Secrets for Successful Home Swapping”. If you want to get a first impression, go to my hub, please at www.siggybuckley.blogspot.com. I call it my ‘Omnibus’. (Unfortunately, the flash links I used are not supported on Apple gadgets).

My personal Facebook page is here.

The Next Time Lucky Facebook page is here.

The Intrepid Home Swapping page is here.

Twitter: @Hernibs

Here is the newest book trailer on Youtube - Enjoy!

Thank you so much for the opportunity of telling you about me and my writings.

New Book Review

New 5 star review : http://amzn.to/YzIr9J
Massively helpful dating tips with a mix of witty entertainment March 30, 2013
Quite a fascinating read. The author is clearly aware of the struggles of finding love after 40. It's refreshing to be able to learn from another person's experience and this has truly been helpful to my growth as a dater well over 40. Watch for the dating tips near the end, they're extremely helpful!

3 Things you must DO!

My latest find:  The 3 Things You Must Do To Be Attractive To Women (looks are irrelevant) on Internet Dating Sites And How To Avoid The Mistakes 96% Of Men Make That Kill YOUR Chances Of Success Stone DEAD!" http://internetdatingninja.com/ . Could somebody please try it out? And report back?

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

  Welcome to my First Guest Blogger, Linda Bolton!

Whether you've met on a dating site, were old high school friends, or friends introduced you, you run into the same issue. How do you know if he likes you?

We all have had experiences where you think you hit it off and then you never hear from him again. What did you do wrong? Did you do something wrong? Or was it him? How do you know if he's into you?

I have a guy friend that tells me if you're on a first date and he doesn't ask you for a follow-up date before you get into your car, he's not that into you. Do you think so? If that's the case, I have had quite a few dates that were not that interested in me.

I have a guy friend that tells me there are certain topics that are off limits on a first date; i.e. exes, money, sex, and illnesses. At fifty years old, there isn't that much else to talk about. Guess that explains, maybe, why they didn't set up a second date.

Then there's the person you've text and online chatted with for weeks. You totally have a ton in common. Then you have that first phone call. They don't sound how you expect. They aren't as witty on the phone as they are in chat. You think it might just be you and you agree to that first meeting. Yeah, lets just say, its as bad as the phone call. You don't want them to ask for a second date.

Ok, here's the exception...you chat and text great conversations. You talk on the phone and he's as witty and funny as you expected. You meet up and you talk about all the things you aren't supposed to. And, guess what? He even asks for a second date. So, what's the moral of the story? I have no idea what the winning combo is. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

Tell me about your experience. How do you know you'll ask for a second date? What tells you not to? What topics are taboo for you on the first date?

Author interview

I'm pleased as Punch to be featured on Linda Rae Blair's  blog today. She is an author of the highest caliber with almost two dozen books in her name. Just look at her impressive list of novels! Here's an excerpt. I'm sure you can contact her too !

Linda Rae Blair, Author

AUTHOR INTERVIEW – SIGGY BUCKLEY (Creative Non-Fiction)

Welcome to Siggy Buckley!

 

Tell us about yourself—you know, all that stuff that makes you interesting!

   I was a college adjunct professor for teaching English (being a German native speaker) for years. Then my life took an unexpected turn. My then husband had opted out of the rat race for health and environmental reasons. He was a CPA, and made us emigrate to Ireland from a professional German background to become organic farmers in the sticks of Ireland: for THE GOOD LIFE. It was a challenge and a culture shock for me. This created a crop of misgivings and, unfortunately, our marriage broke up over it. 

 

Where and how to find a new partner in a country where divorce wasn’t even legal yet? I started my own dating agency ‘to skim off the cream’ ─ as a journalist put it in an interview. I became the “Dating Guru” or “Chief Cupid” of Ireland. Enough to write a book about! When the Internet took over the dating scene even in backward little Ireland, I jumped on the cyber highway myself to find that elusive soul-mate. The book is called “Next Time Lucky: How to Find Your Mr. Right”. It is a sassy, sometimes naughty read. Its new edition has an additional chapter with practical dating advice.
 I’m now happily married and live in the USA. Unfortunately, due to chronic pain, I no longer have a day job but a loving husband who brings home the bacon.
I love getting sucked into a gripping book. I used to golf and garden. Now I prefer to have a nice garden and sit and enjoy it. Dancing has also been one of my passions: Disco music, Bee Gees, Motown—I’m giving away my age here! So instead of sweating in the gym, I prefer to have music take me back to the best times in my life- in my own house dancing!

 I wrote extensively for American Chronicles and Opednews on political and environmental topics. Having several blogs and books going in addition at the same time, my writing now concentrates on our travels – home swapping- as well as maintaining a writer’s blog. It gives writers a platform to get noticed.

I’m a proud International member of the National League of American Pen Women. 

What is your genre?

 Creative non-fiction. I figure if I called it memoirs, I’d be in trouble. Not being a celebrity, who knows Siggy Buckley and would be interested in her memories? And I lived through enough material for another book!

What other writer inspires you? Your work?  

 I met an elderly lady on the oncology ward of the Mayo Clinic, where I volunteered at the time. We quickly connected over the writing, and she was very influential in my approach, learning process and she also edited my book. Thanks to her I’m now a member of the National League of American Pen Women –though I’m not even American but still German.

I like a strong female voice. After a long love affair with Joanne Harris’ books (author of “Chocolat”), I now favor Tana French, an Irish whodunit writer.  I know the Irish settings of her so far 4 books well and love the Irishisms she uses. They make me feel like being back home.......

My hub called Siggy’s Omnibus comprises 5 other sites. Unfortunately, it’s not supported by Apple products because it contains flash links.

My new book trailer is fun! .....For more, please go to Linda Rae Blair's website!

Thank you so much, Linda Rae! 

 

 

 

 

 

Latest dating tips revealed

This blog is aiming at giving always giving you the latest, newest and hottest of what’s happening in the world of dating.

With Valentine’s well over, dear Singles, you now have the rest of the year to find a partner. V-Day can be an emotional bummer if there is no real love interest on the horizon. As I wrote before, the commercialism surrounding this heavenly day of celebrating love is freaking out even experienced men and women who are married or in a steady relationship due to all the hype and expectations surrounding it.

I had hope to have my paperback book out by now, but some technical glitches delayed the procedure. It’s available, however, already since January on Amazon and B&N as an eBook.

This week I was blessed to be asked to come on to Dr. Tranquility’s Dating- Coaching show again after only 3 months. Here’s the link to that podcast. Kick back, grab a glass of wine or hot chocolate and listen to two pros answering callers’ questions.  My advice that I could only hint at is in my new version of Next Time Lucky – if you want more details.

Today I ran across a very informative and entertaining clip about:

What happens to the brain when we’re in love? Produced by the TED Corporation known for its quality lectures.

Will keep you posted about the availability of my paperback version. Just heard the 1str draft is in the mail. Hope it’s not too long a wait until it hits the shops.

Much love!